FWB

I believe in being transparent, so here’s an honest reflection on my current outlook and lifestyle. My intention isn’t to shock or offend but simply to explain where I stand.

I genuinely appreciate the warmth and tenderness a woman can offer—whether it’s a soft touch, a comforting caress, or even a massage that goes beyond admiring my physique. Intimacy, however, has been a rare experience for me in recent years. My last encounter dates back to November 2019, and before that, it was June 2016. Even something as simple as a hug—what some might call a “church hug”—has been elusive.

There are reasons for this. First and foremost, I don’t believe in casual encounters with just anyone. It’s essential for me to ensure the woman I connect with is emotionally stable, sane, and understands that I am not interested in a committed relationship. Second, I’ve been happily divorced for 23 years and have no intention of walking down the aisle a second time.

This upfront honesty often becomes a dealbreaker early on. I typically share this perspective during the first or second phone conversation with a woman, and many lose interest soon after. While I understand and respect their decisions, my stance remains unchanged.

At this point in my life, I’m retired, in good health, and focused on pursuits that bring me joy and fulfillment. I officially retired on May 31 and have since dedicated myself to entrepreneurial ventures like writing, investing, and business ownership. My leisure time is filled with hobbies such as caring for over 100 houseplants, watching sports—NBA, NFL, MLB—and playing the Madden NFL video game on my PlayStation 5. The graphics are stunningly realistic, a far cry from what we grew up with.

Because of my lifestyle and priorities, I have no interest in a traditional, committed relationship. However, I do occasionally seek companionship, which is why I sign up for dating sites every four to six months. These brief stints—usually lasting one to two months—are solely for the purpose of finding a female friend-with-benefits.

Admittedly, most women aren’t interested in this arrangement, and that’s perfectly fine. In most cases, we part ways before meeting in person. I’ve been asked repeatedly why I don’t include this preference in my dating profile.

The truth is, there are two reasons. First, explaining all of this in detail would be impractical and overwhelming. Second, such a candid narrative would likely deter women before any meaningful interaction could begin. It would be, for lack of a better term, social suicide.

While my approach may not align with conventional dating norms, it’s what works for me. I value honesty and clarity, even if it limits my options. For those who choose to engage, they know exactly what to expect, and I believe that transparency is a foundation for any meaningful connection—no matter how unconventional it might be.